I didn't post on my personal Instagram regularly for the longest time because I didn’t feel like I was worth sharing. Who would care what I have to say? What did I know? I assumed I didn’t have what it takes to even try to share...and all that nonsense.
I waited around and didn’t share because of fear. Fear of what people that I went to school with would think. Basically fear of nothing because more than likely, those people didn’t care at all and probably weren’t even thinking about me.
I wasted that time letting the thought of others’ opinions stop me from walking in my purpose and living my dream life.
How crazy is that?!
I was MORE THAN capable and skilled to start right then and there. You are more than capable and skilled to start right now.
Whatever you have gone through, you are the expert on. So why would anyone’s opinions matter if you know your stuff?
Just because you aren’t where you feel like you should be or where you want to be etc, doesn’t make you not qualified to share on social media or to help people or whatever it may be.
Realize there’s a whole life out there waiting for you to grab it and stake your claim. There is a life out there waiting on you. YES, YOU.
It wasn’t until I tapped into who I am and expressed that 100% authentically, that I began to feel so so in tune with my purpose and could see my dreams become reality.
It’s there and all you have to do is go grab it.
That life you dream of? What makes you not capable of that? Nothing.
The only thing stopping you is that you are asleep when it comes to what you’re capable of.
Now it’s time to really hone in on your story.
What makes you, YOU? What can people resonate with and need that you have gone through and learned a heck of a lot from?
Maybe it’s that you have struggled with ADHD since you were a kid and you’ve learned a lot from that and love to talk to others who struggle with ADHD.
Whatever it may be, your story has the power to help a lot of people.
You already have what it takes. We all have a story. We all have something that someone out there needs to hear. Each and every person has something they can offer.
No matter how small it might seem to you, there are people who need what you have; need what you know.
So what’s stopping you? Is it fear? Fear of what others will think? Laziness? Self sabotage?
Going off of my last blog post, go grab your peace markers to help you keep your faith to get out there and keep going.
If you struggle with laziness, get real with yourself and start different acts of discipline. Create a schedule for yourself and keep your dream life clear and in front of you as a constant reminder on why you WILL get up an hour earlier to serve your people, etc.
If self sabotage is a challenge, find ways to reward yourself for even the smallest things. Self love goes a long way.
When you are kind to yourself and your biggest fan, you’ll be able to fully tap into and realize all that you are capable of.
If you don’t wake the frick up and tap in, your people that need YOU will be left in the dust.
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This past week in Texas has nothing short of complete chaos.
Snow storms every night. No power for days on end. No water for a week. Then the water wasn’t safe to even put on our faces. No food in the stores. No gas left at gas stations. Car wrecks everywhere you turn because of bad road conditions. Fires destroying peoples’ homes with no water to save them.
The list goes on...
It has been scary, sad, exhausting and all so crazy.
During this time there was so little we could control and it was difficult to keep our heads up, bad news after bad news.
When literally EVERYTHING went to shiz for Texas, it was a rough time for my mental health but I learned to find some really helpful ways to keep my head up and keep going.
When things go to crap, you need a life line. Something to hold onto.
The easiest way to always have that life line on hand, is to find ways to remember the most encouraging points in your life that you can hold onto for when you need them most.
The things that you have gone through and came out of as a stronger you, you can use as peace markers.
As encouragement and as reminders that you have what it takes to keep going.
You might be fighting some recurring battles still, but you are fighting them as a stronger, more equipped version of yourself.
When fear feels like more than you can handle, focus on those peace markers that got you to where you are today.
It doesn’t matter how small the challenges you have faced and gotten through were, you still got through them.
With any battle or challenge that arises, all you need is a little bit of faith to get you going.
Tomorrow’s faith is for tomorrow to deal with.
Start today with enough faith to get through the shiz today brings.
For a more in depth version of this topic, check out the live training here, where I dived in and gave some more useful things to remember when life seems to be throwing you under the bus.
As everyone else was going to college and I was here doing my own thang, I felt at many times that I was behind in life. That I might not get anywhere in life because they seemed to have it all together more than I did at the moment. Or at least they appeared to.
That was SO FAR from the truth.
I am now here feeling so fulfilled in my business, while many of those people are living hella stressed and confused if they are doing the right thing.
At times, it can be difficult, feeling alone in your journey as you pursue whatever it may be, and it can be so easy to compare to other people and where they are or where they are going.
But lemme tell ya, it is a HUGE waste of your time and everyone else's. You are not only wasting your time, you are wasting the time of the people who need you.
Comparison is a thief that will do nothing but leave you feeling defeated and depleted.
When the success of others starts to distract you, take a step back and learn to celebrate them and use them as motivation and inspiration.
If their success caught your attention, see what they are doing that is working, honor that hard word and apply it yourself!
Their success does not have to be something that is in your way or that means you are any less than.
They are in their OWN LANE. You are in YOUR OWN LANE.
AND guess what?! The people that NEED you are not going to be in that person's lane. NO, YOUR people are waiting on YOU because they NEED YOU.
Someone else's success does NOT mean you are any less. Doesn't mean you are behind. AND most importantly doesn't mean there isn’t any room left for you.
Stop dattt. You deserve success as much as anyone else.
Get your blinders on and get out there!! Choose to keep moving even when your mind plays these tricks on you. Fight back and get your booty moving.
If you resonate with feeling alone on your journey, pop in here where you'll find other people just like you that are ACTUALLY doing the things.
Okay, don’t freak out, don’t freak out. Breathe, breathhhhh.
I know the title can cause some anxiety because you might already feel like you aren’t doing enough. Calm it down. Let me explain.
This doesn’t have to mean some crazy project. “Starting now” will mean something different to everyone.
We all have those thoughts that tell us we aren’t worthy of writing that book, or being in the olympics or whatever it may be. AND BOY, is that so far from the truth. You are worthy to start whatever it may be.
Whatever you think of first as you read through or as you watch the video, DO NOT IGNORE. Even if it’s small, it must have some importance for it to be coming up.
Now that your brain is aathinking, let’s get to the good stuff.
Okay, what are you doing daily?
Do you even feel comfortable answering that? Or happy with your answer?
What do you want your answer to be, realistically?
Is what you are doing daily anything close to what you would like your answer to be? Does it even feel in reach?
DON’T skip over these questions. They REALLY put in perspective how much a shift might be needed.
Take a day to write out everything you do and how long it took you to do every one of those things. This will help you see where you are wasting time and could be taking action and will help to see all the ‘stuff’ that might be really unneeded in your day to day.
When I took the time to do this, it really put in perspective how much I was overworking myself doing a whole lot of stuff that wasn’t really getting much of anywhere and just leaving me tired. There was no life giving activities and that explained why I was left feeling burnt out daily.
If you see your day to day and you don’t feel accomplished in any of it, that will continue to happen until you decide to start incorporating something daily that moves the needle. Until you START NOW on what you feel nudged to do.
The easiest way to do this is to go grab a notecard, draw a line in the middle and on the right side write at least 3 things you can do that day to move the needle per say or that fill up your cup. It could be texting that friend, writing that blog post, or taking your dog to the park etc. On the left side, write down the things that have to get done but aren’t really action steps, like washing the dishes, getting the mail etc.
Start doing this notecard activity daily and watch how refreshing it becomes to lean into those nudges you have and work on them daily.
You might be thinking this topic is just TOO broad, but lemme tell you, you know more than anyone does on what this topic means to you personally.
That nudge you’re feeling, LISTEN to it.
You have the resources to get you started.
I know it can be scary and intimidating but you aren’t doing it alone.
Message me here and I can walk you through all the nooks & crannies.
Like I said, you can’t expect the change you desire to ever happen if you aren’t starting now on whatever you feel nudged to do.
We are only getting older. Start now while you can.
I was reading a book the other day and there was a story about a little girl who was dancing at a pizza place and she asked this lady in her 20’s to dance with her.
As they danced, the older girl noticed that people were pointing at the little girl laughing at her so she started mimicking the little girl's dance moves & doing her own craziesttt moves. As they were dancing, the little girl pulled the older girl aside & told her "you're my favorite person”.
What one thinks as 'crazy' or 'weird', another one might find to be the highlight of their day, week, month, year or even might stick with them for a lifetime.
This past halloween I went to a trunk or treat with my nephews and I dressed up like a shark because I wanted to make my nephew feel like he had a costume buddy and let me tell you, I had so much fun in that costume that night and I embraced the heck out of it.
That night I not only made my nephew’s night, I also had a little boy dressed as a shark come up to me and his mom asked to take a picture with me since I was the only other shark there. He had the biggest smile on his face and it filled my heart with so much joy.
What could’ve been an embarrassing little costume, ended up being the most memorable night with lots of smiles shared.
No matter how awkward it might feel to fully
embrace yourself, don't let that stop you from living your best life, from being your best self and from impacting someone.
There are people out there that need everything you have been gifted with. They need what you have to offer. All the messy, crazy & rawness.
What you might find you need to hide, someone is desperately longing to feel belonged and you just might be the missing piece of hope & inspiration for them.
Whatever you do, don't hold back your uniqueness. Shed your light with all your heart and don't look back.
There's nothing 'cool' about being the most put together person in the room. Be the life in the room.
I give you permission to not listen to society's standards of 'perfect. There's no fun in that.
If you’d like a place where you can feel 'belonged, pop in my group of Intentional & Ignited Young Adults here.
